No app to reveal which dating apps people use: SKIP, 25/100 | Ideas Lab

A tool to identify which dating apps people use, enabling users to find or avoid them across platforms.

The pain

People want to know if someone they're interested in or want to avoid is active on specific dating apps without asking directly. This creates friction when trying to connect with matches or dodge exes.

The gap

Dating apps don't expose user presence across platforms. There's no aggregated way to search for someone and see their app activity without manually checking each platform.

Build angle

Create a searchable database where users voluntarily list which apps they're on, or build a tool that scrapes public profiles across dating apps to map user presence.

Strengths

Solves a real coordination problem, people do want this information
Low technical barrier to MVP if built as a directory
Could monetize through premium searches or app partnerships

Risks

Privacy and consent nightmare. Scraping profiles violates app ToS and creates legal exposure. Voluntary submission has zero network effects, why would users populate it?
Dating apps actively prevent this. They have incentive to keep users siloed and will block access, sue, or shut you down
Reputational risk. Positioning as a stalking tool (even if framed as 'avoidance') attracts regulatory scrutiny and user backlash
Chicken-and-egg problem. Without critical mass, the directory is useless. With critical mass, you're a liability to the dating ecosystem
Monetization is unclear. Dating apps won't partner. Users won't pay for a directory they don't trust with their data

Fly Labs Method

Is the pain real, is there a gap, is it the right time, can one person build it.

25

Value Equation

Dream outcome and how likely it feels, against the time and effort it costs.

15

One-Person Business

Curiosity pull, identity fit, and a path from free value to paid for a solo creator.

35

Viral Frameworks

Hook strength, shareability, and how cheaply it can be tested.

20

Builder Lens

Evidence the problem exists, timing, defensibility, and a model that fits on a napkin.

30

Five lenses, one composite. How scoring works

The angle

Create a searchable database where users voluntarily list which apps they're on, or build a tool that scrapes public profiles across dating apps to map user presence.

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